Local Couple Denies Elderly Abuse Accusations

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By Maggie Vespa

Since 2006, Elderly Abuse Awareness Month has given a needed voice for those most vulnerable in today's society and a lesson to those who cause the elderly harm.

But now one family is asking the question, what happens when those being punished never knew any harm was done?

It's one of those issues no one wants to talk about.

"There's a lot of shame in it. There's a lot of guilt. I mean, who's gonna abuse a senior?" said Joyce DeRenzy of Peoria's Center for The Prevention of Abuse.

At least that's how she describes one of this month's top causes. She says every year her agency sees over 600 new reports of elderly abuse in Central Illinois. Those range from physical to sexual to financial abuse cases or ones of simple neglect.

That's something Alfred and Carolyn Jackson of Metamora have become all too familiar with this year.

"We went and picked her up January the 24th, and she moved in. On the way up she told us she had been seen by doctors, that she was fine," said Carolyn.

But Alfred's mother, 72 year old Nancy Jackson was not fine. Just before moving in with her son's family, she had developed a severe ulcer on her back.

After her unrelated death in May, investigators called the Jacksons, asking about the wound. The family says they were shocked about the ulcer, but not about Nancy's silence.

"She would sit in a chair praying that God would take her at night because she feels like a burden," said Alfred.

By the time Nancy moved into the Jackson's house she was the eighth person living in a four-bedroom home, so finding space for her was an issue. In one night, Alfred put up a wall splitting their living room in two and creating an extra bedroom. The Jacksons say they did all they could, which makes the process even more frustrating, especially with four children, one having severe handicaps, plus having Carolyn's father who is battling Alzheimer's all living at under one roof.

"How much can one person do? I can only do so much," said Carolyn.

Tuesday, Jul 7 at 4:54 PM jimmyjames wrote ...

I have known this family for over 2 years now and can vouch that they are the some of the most giving people I have ever met. They took in his mother instead of allowing her to go to a nursing home and she did not tell them about the sore. It hurts to see such good people accused of something so outrageous in such a time as a loved one dying. It's bad enough to lose your mother, even worse to be accused of causing it in such a time

Tuesday, Jul 7 at 12:32 AM PKM wrote ...

I would like the PUBLIC to be made aware of just what ELDER ABUSE INVESTIGATORS do,they invade the home of the elderly on false pretence and force them to sign papers that in most cases the person does not know what they signed.Who is funding this agency,who is getting fat and making a living for do nothings except pry into others business.Think I am kidding my mother just had one at her door and they refused to leave and pushed themselves in to her home.WE WILL BE RESPONDING WITH A LAWYER.

Monday, Jul 6 at 5:52 AM Mike wrote ...

Typical Drive-by Liberal Media, only reporting the part of the story they deem necessary reguardless of who's lives they destroy!!!

Sunday, Jul 5 at 10:26 PM Penny wrote ...

My heart goes out to the family! I have worked as a CNA/Caregiver for over 20 years. Privacy is important to the elderly and is to be respected. I applaud the family for taking the mom in...many would have left her to rot and not have bothered with it. Bless the family...you did your best and allowed her to die with dignity. And Aaron...the ulcer was probably a result of her being on that portion of her back too long. AKA as a pressure point, they are VERY common in the elderly.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 12:22 PM JC wrote ...

The Jackson Family, I was one to judge to quickly until I realized that the story was only 2 min long, and I am truely sorry for that but honestly if they are doing a news story on elderly abuse they do need to either run a longer story or like you said print the interview.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 10:37 AM Alfred Jackson wrote ...

The interview failed to mention that after her hospitilization we have records showing she had this ulcer started in Oct. bf coming here end of Jan. She never told my brother whom she had lived with over 2 years prior.We aren't looking fr sympathy, we just people to understand the situation and not assume we are quilty until they've knew the circumstances.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 10:37 AM Meagan wrote ...

JC if you noticed not even that whole 2 minutes was my parents. They were interviewing them for almost an hour according to my mother. They only aired about 1.5 minutes of it.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 10:32 AM Carolyn Jackson wrote ...

JC The interview lasted 45 minutes to an hour. I understand they have a limited time to air a story. However, they could have at least printed the interview. After hearing the whole interview people wouldn't be so quick to judge us as being guilty or thinking we should have done more. The situation was thrown upon us so quick that we weren't prepared for another handicap person to be living in our home. However, you do what you have to in order to take care of your family. We did our best.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 9:08 AM JC wrote ...

DB, its just like child abuse somebody has to call them about the so called abuse and they go from there. Like I told Meagan earlier if they seen any kind of abuse when they came in the home they would have called DCFS and took the kids and there was also another elderly male in the house that they kept in the home too, so don't hate the investigater for doing their job. WEEK needs to do a better job reporting a story if they want to educate people!!!!

Sunday, Jul 5 at 1:29 AM D.B. wrote ...

cont'd that more should be done to have services available for seniors as in counseling so that they feel more confident and can be more open to whomever is taking care of them. no more shame or embarrassment to ask for help,like sooo many are feeling. I hope that the family will be able to get out from under this mess unscathed.

Sunday, Jul 5 at 1:21 AM D.B. wrote ...

I think that investigators need to learn more about the situation that an elder is in before throwing accusations around and hurting innocent people trying their best to help loved ones. I feel sorry for the family involved in this farce of an investigation. I know how proud the elderly can be. They are usually ashamed and embarrassed to ask for help when they need it, and some don't think they deserve the attention because they feel like a burden when the family has to take them in. I think

Saturday, Jul 4 at 11:42 PM JC wrote ...

Meagan I have one last question and its been nagging at me all day, I was wondering how long the reporters interviewed your parents, cause they only put 2min and 10 sec of it on the news.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 11:02 PM pm wrote ...

I have taken care of many senior citizens,I hope made their lives a little easier just by listening and visiting.They need to say what they feel they need NOT to be told by some outside government supported group of uncaring people waiting for $$$,what to do.Life belongs to YOU.The News Media need to sell a story,it doesn't matter who they hurt in the process.They live off others like the BUZZARDS THEY ARE.BE SURE THE SHOES YOU CRITICS WEAR KNOW OF LOSS AND PAIN AND REALITY AND LIFE.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 10:41 PM pat wrote ...

Let ELDER ABUSE take care of themselves.They seem to be a colege educated group who has neither felt nor really cared for a loved one dying or what a family or person goes through in saying good-bye to a loved one.It is horrible,letting go finally telling mom that it is OK now,you don't have to put up with the pain any more,for this life in this suit that we wear that covers our soul gets tired and aches and hurts and dies around a living brain.To let go I could say is easy,I've tried many times

Saturday, Jul 4 at 6:39 PM Lyn wrote ...

If you have ever cared for an elderly person, one would know they still desire to take care of themselves. It's extremely hard to help them bathe, etc.They want their independence. Do not feel guilt. How many people would disrupt their lives, their children's lives. It is a tremendous job!

Saturday, Jul 4 at 6:14 PM nana wrote ...

who cares

Saturday, Jul 4 at 3:00 PM Gene Streator IL. wrote ...

My wife took care of her mother for 5 month before her passing and she wanted to do as much as possible for her self.I feel very bad for the family and GOD bless you for trying to help .

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:47 PM Meagan/Middle daughter wrote ...

JC you make a valid point and thank you. I am sorry this is just a touchy subject right now and is difficult not to get upset when people say some of these things about my family. I do wish they had aired the entire interview, some of these issues on here wouldn't have even come up.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:27 PM Anonymous wrote ...

cont...my point is this could have happened to me. i pray this family stays strong. I sounds to me like you are doing the best you can and kudo's for taking care of your own.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:26 PM JC wrote ...

Meagan, your right I don't know your family or the situation, and I am truly sorry. Realized that if your parents were quilty then the kids and the grandfather would have been taken out of the house and they were not. Really its the medias fault for not telling the whole story, just what they want people to hear and once again I am sorry!!!!!

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:21 PM Anonymous wrote ...

I took care of my grandma at my home during the last 3 yrs of her life. The last thing she wanted was to be put in a home which i think would've mentally done her in long before her time. I am thankful that i had the opportunity to give back since she took care of me & my sis after our mother died.When she first came, tryng to help her bathe was a big issue because of her modesty.Lucklily she saw things my way, otherwise i wouldn't have seen the sores forming on her bottom.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 11:41 AM Meagan/Middle daughter wrote ...

when you don't know our family and don't know the situation. So really your opinions have no merit and i could careless what you think you know. I can only hope that this never happens to you, have a nice day.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 11:39 AM Meagan/Middle daughter wrote ...

Where then? a nursing home? Nursing homes are for people who need to be taken care of and Nancy only needed a place to stay considering she was being kicked out and had no where else to go. Would you let your mother be kicked out on the street, because she didn't want a nursing home either. I am not necessarily putting the blame on them, yes she could have been treated better but she did not want anyone to know she had that ulcer and she made sure she hid it. It's easy for you to point a finger

Saturday, Jul 4 at 11:07 AM JC wrote ...

Oh yes lets put the blame on the other place she lived and the other son. You didn't have to take her in, there are other places she could have lived. This isn't a pity party. If they made her feel loved then she wouldn't have felt that way!

Saturday, Jul 4 at 10:59 AM Meagan/Middle daughter wrote ...

btw JC did you recall my mother's comment about her being as a prisoner in the other home? If she got the idea from anyone it was probably due to the fact that she was scolded if she ever knocked a drink over so had she told of the ulcer, in her mind, would have been a huge burden on her OTHER son and NOT my mother and Al. She felt they may react the same way even though they never gave her a reason to. Believe me no one knows them better than their kids, she has raised 6,if you missed that too.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 10:38 AM Meagan wrote ...

To mother of five, how will you know if something is there if they don't complain about anything? If your kids didn't complain that they were sick would you know? You weren't there and you don't know the true story. They did care, why do you think they tried to take care of her. Would you expect them to force her to take her clothes off in front of them before she takes a bath? If so they would also be getting hit with sexual harassment as well, so you tell me what could have been done.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 9:15 AM JC wrote ...

Its funny how you post in the comments you loved her and all that but then in the news story it says "She would sit in a chair praying that God would take her at night because she feels like a burden," said Alfred she must have gotten that idea somewhere.....

Saturday, Jul 4 at 5:57 AM Fat Daddy wrote ...

DO NOT JUDGE OTHERS LEST YE BE JUDGED.

Saturday, Jul 4 at 1:11 AM Youngest daughter wrote ...

cont... her with nothing on and if i remember correctly you cannot force someone to take off their clothes infront of you without it being sexual harrassment... And to Aaron who posted at 6 and any of you others who are wondering... Nancy passed away and we do love her and miss her very much, dispite what some of you may think... This investigation of my family is extremely unnecessary. Interview everyone my parents know and they will tell you that you are crazy!

Saturday, Jul 4 at 1:07 AM Youngest Daughter wrote ...

My mother and Al are very caring and are always helping out others before themselves. Like my sister just posted, my mother rasied us 6 children on her own with hardly any help and the oldest one is handicaped. My mother has taken care of him all his life and will be doing it for the rest of hers. I was at the house alot when Nancy was there. When she looked like she was in pain, i asked if she was okay and she said she was perfectly fine. She bathed herself and did not want any of us seeing

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:39 AM Al & Carolyn Jackson wrote ...

cont'd. the same for Nancy. This is a small portion of the interview and wished more of it had been aired, then maybe you all wouldn't be so quick to judge us as being guilty. We were only tying to get her out of a home she as a prisoner and wanted to get her in a better situation with grandchildren around her. We honestly had no idea of any ulcer as she never show us any pain it must have been causing. She was a proud woman and never complained about anything. We all miss her

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:29 AM Carolyn & Al Jackson wrote ...

To clear a few things up and in response to the above comments. We were given an ultimatum by Nancy's other son to move her here within a two week period or she'd be put somewhere. We knew nothing of any ulcer or any other medical issues. Nancy was mobile and took care of her own personal needs. Had we known of the ulcer we'd have taken care of it and had her seen by the wound clinic here. Carolyn's son has been battling these ulcers for years and she packed them herself and would have done

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:25 AM Daughter wrote ...

My mother raised 6 of us, virtually on her own and as far back as i can remember she has put her own needs and wants behind EVERYONE elses. God blessed her with a big and patient heart. They both do nothing but help out everyone. The fact that they are accused is a testimate to how sick and twisted people can be towards others in this world, it makes everyone as suspect. My mother and Al would NEVER harm or neglect anyone and i think anyone who has met them would attest to that. Love you both :)

Saturday, Jul 4 at 12:02 AM pat wrote ...

There is one thing that elder abuse does not see or understand.Some of us came from and believe as our heritage of being American Indian,that when it is time,I open the door and walk away into the woods fo give my life back to God.I LOVE ANIMALS,IF I LIVED ELSEWHERE,I would walk away as so very many are walking out of nursing homes and their own homes.LIFE IS SO MUCH MORE BEAUTIFUL IN THE QUIET WOODS,FILLED WITH BIRDS,AND THE BLEEP OF DEER AND THE CALLS OF THE WOLF OR THE CRY OF THE LARGE CATS.

Friday, Jul 3 at 11:59 PM Co-worker wrote ...

I have personally known this couple for over 3 years now. Carolyn has taken care of her handicap son for 29 years, who has been battling this very type of ulcer. She has been taking excellent care of him along with her father. She absolute knew nothing of the ulcer on Ms. Jackson as she bathed herself and took care of her own personal needs. This a a very loving and caring couple and both are innocent of any neglect or abuse. If anything, this is a case of neglect on the victim herself.

Friday, Jul 3 at 11:39 PM PKM wrote ...

to mother of 5 NO.NO.NO. ONE SEES THEM AND NO ONE TELLS YOU THEY HURT.THIS IS THE WAY THE ELDERLY WANT TO DIE WITH DIGNITY,NOT BEING KEPT ALIVE WHEN THERE IS NO ONE IN THEIR AGE STILL ALIVE,WHEN THEY HAVE LOST MOST OF THEIR FAMILY. ME,I HAVE TRIED TO DIE SO MANY TIMES THE NUMBERS ARE GONE BUT THERE IS SOME REASON THAT I LIVE,SO WHEN IT IS TIME...I WILL NOT BE KEPT ALIVE ON ONE OF MAN'S NEWEST MACHINE,MY LIFE GOES TO GOD AND MY BODY ALL OF IT TO SAVE ANOTHER FOR A WHILE LONGER.AND TO RESEARCH.

Friday, Jul 3 at 11:34 PM Regina wrote ...

Not sure about all of you ...BUT... coming from the other side of care giving I would notice the ulcer right away and I would notify my nurse.. In a nursing home though,, this may have been told to the nurse but if she is busy she may have forgotten OR neglected to note it on her paper work. It is just sad that this is done in the first place..My sympathy to the family

Friday, Jul 3 at 10:39 PM Ken wrote ...

an Ulcer that was present at the home she was staying at prior to moving in with them should have been reported by the nursing facility.Did they recieve a complete report from the home? I beleive they didnt kow maybe she was mobile and could bath herself. Does anyone else watch their mother bath if she could do it her self? i doubt it, senoirs want their dignity. This serves warning if you take your parent or loved one out of a home know thier meds, and physical ailments a wound can be deadly.

Friday, Jul 3 at 10:04 PM Choppy wrote ...

Mother of five...does ir suggest anywhere in this article that they would see the woman disrobed? That she could not at all care for herself(I.E. shower and clothe herself? No it does not. When is the last time you saw your mothers bare back? Get details before you make judgment without all the information. As a mother of 5 I am sure you would not like people to rush to judgment about your children's bumps and bruises.

Friday, Jul 3 at 8:53 PM mother of five wrote ...

First of all, if the woman had an ulcer on her back, someone should have noticed it caring for her, or seen her hurting. Come on play that innocence with an idiot. They knew she had it and didn't care.

Friday, Jul 3 at 6:02 PM Aaron wrote ...

Where is this going? There was no point to this article, no catch...She had an ulcer on her back...from what? What's the outcome?

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